This is a personal choice for everyone. With our first, I didn’t give this much consideration and just thought we would wait until 12 weeks/the end of the first trimester to tell our families like everyone else we knew seemed to do.
But then we found ourselves sitting in the ER when I was 8 weeks pregnant and bleeding, and I wanted to call my mom, but also didn’t want to have to say ‘I’m pregnant but also maybe not’. I decided right then that once this whole emergency room thing was over, we were telling our families. And we did.
And with each pregnancy afterwards, we shared our news with parents and siblings as soon as we were able to see them in-person, usually around 7 or 8 weeks. I wanted them to be there if something went wrong with the pregnancy, and to not have us shoulder it alone.
Decide what works for you. Some people prefer to keep everything to themselves until later, like the end of the first trimester around 12 weeks. For us, that’s when we shared our news with most friends.
The decision of when to tell work is also a personal choice. Some people need to share earlier based on workplace safety protocols, others wait until the first ultrasound, some until the anatomical ultrasound between 18 – 20 weeks. Others, somewhere in the middle of all of that. Decide what makes sense for you.